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Losing Your Mojo & Ways To Get It Back

November 2, 2017

Losing Your Mojo

I’m not one for writing personal posts on the blog. However, what I am very keen on doing is helping people who may be facing similar obstacles to what I have.

So today, I’m talking about your M O J O.  I think most people understand what it feels like when you have mojo.  It’s that thing that puts a spring in your step, the thing that gets you out of bed in the morning, and the thing that gives you energy and drive to achieve your ambitions. So, when it’s lost it can leave you feeling, well, lost.

I lost my mojo, which I think was caused by a series of set backs with the horses. This in turn left me questioning my love for the sport, something I never thought I would do, especially after being incredibly passionate about it for the last 20 years!

Losing your mojo puts you in a difficult situation. Because you are not feeling like doing the thing you love, or you are lacking enthusiasm for it, it then has a knock on effect on everything else in your life.

Ways To Get Your Mojo Back

Here’s some things I found really helped me get my mojo back.

Being resilient.  Resilience is key and so is your mindset.  The sport we do is tough, it leaves us very exposed emotionally, as we love our horses and they become a member of the family. When they get injured it can be hugely upsetting and impact on your life greatly. Unfortunately, they can not be replaced like a broken bike.  Anyway, I found trying to remain positive whatever the situation (when horses were going lame etc) and having a much more positive mentality really helped.

Reduce stress – try to reduce stress where you can.  Don’t let yourself get too stressed about the smaller things. If there is one thing that is really getting to you, address it as quickly as possible and move on. The sooner you can eradicate stresses from your life the better.

Do that thing you said you’ve always wanted to do, but haven’t got round to doing it –Broaden your horizons. Try something new and do that thing you’ve always said you wanted to do. I’ve always been a real sports lover and I’ve recently taken up CrossFit after a long time of saying I wanted to do it.  Starting new things can be daunting but also hugely excited and fulfilling at the same time.

Hang out with your favourite people – Be with the people who pick you up, who fill you with positivity and who make you feel that you can achieve your dreams. Spend less time with negative people who have a glass half empty approach – they won’t help with gaining your mojo back.

Have a digital detox – Try to not use social media for a day, or a week. We all know how draining it can be. It can also be incredibly harmful in making people feel that their life is rubbish compared to what they see on Instagram. Take yourself out of the social media bubble. Instead use the time to do something you enjoy. Go for a walk, bake a cake, paint, read a book, do some gardening, ride a bike – get outdoors.

Be healthy – It’s imperative that if you want to feel better mentally, you need to focus on what you are doing physically as well. Eat healthy. Love. Laugh. Do exercise you enjoy. Don’t force yourself to go to the gym if you hate it, find something else that you enjoy doing.

Doing all of the above really helped me in finding my Mojo, I hope it will help you too!

Lots of love,



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  • Reply Sarah November 3, 2017 at 5:47 pm

    Mojo distinctly absent at the moment following a second back surgery…however hard I try I’m struggling to be enthusiastic about my horses, riding or keeping anything up together, I should be ashamed of my yard, my standards have slipped from 10* to pathetic.
    I am trying all the ideas and more, but feels like a constant uphill battle.

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      Reply Abi Rule November 25, 2017 at 9:27 pm

      Sarah, I completely understand how you feel! I was super ashamed of my tack room – which resembled a bomb site. My only bit of advice is to do more of the things you love – it will give you the motivation to do other things that you haven’t been doing. I found taking up a new sport (CrossFit) actually inspired and motivated me to sort myself out with the horses. Best of luck xx

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